3 Creative Ways To Meet Men You’ve Probably Never Thought About
By: Dr. Aesha
Do you hate online dating? Prefer to meet men the old-fashioned way, but it seems like everywhere you go you only meet men who are too old, too married, too young, or too undateable? If you’re wondering where all the high-quality men are, it’s time to take matters into your own hands.
That’s what my roommate and I did when we were single. We grew tired of waiting on the guys we liked to ask us out, so we decided to host a barbeque at our home. We invited them over, along with a few more single men and women from church, ate good food, watched movies and had a good time getting to know each other!
In other words, we didn’t leave our love lives to chance. We created our own opportunities to mix and mingle with eligible men. You can too with these 3 creative ways to meet men.
1) Brown Sugar Parties
My matchmaking colleague, Paul C Brunson, told me about an idea he and his wife created to help their single friends meet each other. They hosted “brown sugar parties” at their home. The idea was to bring drinks made with brown sugar and get people together. Now I personally don’t drink, so if I were to use this idea, I would require everyone to bring some baked goodies that were made with brown sugar AND they’d have to bring a cutie who looked like brown sugar too!
2) SWARM Parties
I recently heard Dr. Henry Cloud teach singles to stop using the excuse “there are no good men.” He told a story of a group of women who created their own organization called S.W.A.R.M.: Single Women Actively Recruiting Men. To be a part of the group, you had to recruit and bring a guy with you to each event. This man could be someone you weren’t necessarily interested in, but who could be a match for someone else!
3) “Guess Who’s Coming To Dinner” Parties
This is a fun way to play matchmaker for your friends! My friend Julie Ferman said she and her friends used to do this in college. Grab a bunch of your single friends and each of you write out the top 3 qualities you’re looking for in a mate. Put your name on the paper, put it in a jar, and then each one picks a sheet, without sharing who you picked (kind of like Secret Santa!) Now it’s your job to look for a person to invite to the dinner party who fits those qualities.
Think of eligible men you know at work, church, the gym, your family, or even a man you put in the friend zone!
Bring this person to your dinner party. It could be at someone’s home, a fancy restaurant, or at a burger joint. It doesn’t matter where you have the dinner party, just as long as you have an open mind and a desire to introduce each other to some great men!
Think outside the dating box. There are great men all around you and with some creative planning, you could meet the man of your dreams!
Which idea would you like to try?