Making Major Life Decisions: How We've Decided to Homeschool
By: Aesha Adams-Roberts
We're taking the plunge! We've decided to homeschool starting this fall! Whoo hoo!!!!! I'm nervous and excited all at the same time, kind of how I felt when I found I was pregnant. We're also confident we've made a major life decision that will be a blessing to our family. I'll share the reasons WHY we are choosing to homeschool another time. Today, I want to share HOW we made the decision because you can apply the same principles to making major life decisions, whether your'e trying to decide who to date or marry, when to start a family, if you should stay at home with your kids or any other major decision affecting your life and relationships.
As a relationship mentor, I often get questions like:
- Should I date this guy I met online?
- Should I have another baby?
- Should I try to get my ex back?
Most of these people tell me they're paralyzed by fear! Fear of failure or of making the wrong choice can cause insecurity, doubt and indecision. But I have to tell you from experience: all of these emotions and mindsets cause more pain than making a wrong decisions! Here's why:
1) Most decisions won't kill you!
We're rarely faced with life or death decisions, but if you tell yourself it'll be the end of the world if you make the wrong choice, then you won't make a choice at all. When my husband and I talked about homeschooling our daughter, we realized that if it didn't work out, we could always make another choice. Either way, our final decision wouldn't kill us. And either way, God would be with us
2) Give yourself time–but not too much!
You've heard of the waiting period for major purchases? What about a waiting period for making major life decisions! Think 5-5-5: Will this matter 5 days from now? How will I feel about it 5 weeks from now? 5 months (or 5 years)? This little exercise can get you out of your emotions and give you different perspectives. On the other hand, if you tend to agonize over your options, then give yourself a deadline!
3) Seek wise counsel
You need about 2-3 people in your life whom you trust. These are people who know you and who are personally invested into your life. I spoke with a homeschooling mom of 9 with over 20 years experience. To my surprise, she told me she was hoping I'd homeschool and gave me tips to get started!
Some of the wise counsel in your life will point out how awesome you are and others will help you from derailing. You need both types of voices in your life, especially when making major life decisions.
4) Get clear on what you want your life to look like
We didn't make such a huge decision in a vacuum. In other words, my husband and I had already had conversations over a year ago about what was important to us. In fact, when the idea first came up, I was NOT ready or willing to homeschool, so we put our daughter in preschool. I've had a change of heart and so the decision changed. Did you get that? You can easily make major life decisions–now and in the future–when you have a vision for your life!
How do you make major life decions? Share your story in a comment below