How To Date Your Wife
By: Aesha Adams-Roberts
In today's post, I'm sharing a little help for the guys. I'm so blessed to know that many of the men who connect with me here at aeshaonline.com and on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram are great guys. You're husbands, fathers (both single & married) and single men who know how to honor and respect women (and if they're not married, you've shared you're looking for a great woman you can partner with and build an amazing life).
So many of you have written me, asking, "What do you have for the GUYS?" I'm glad you asked! I wrote an article "How to Date Your Husband" and it was one of our most popular pieces. Today, I'll share some insider tips on how to date your wife.
Remember when dating was exciting, mysterious and passionate? You couldn't wait to see her. You just wanted to be with her all the time. You wooed your girlfriend in such an amazing way that she said "Yes" to becoming your wife and to building a life together. I have one question: When your girlfriend became your wife, why did you stop dating her?
God didn't intend for marriage to be boring. Just because you are committed to another person for life, doesn't mean it's destined to get stale, either. Listen to the ancient wisdom God shares on how to date your wife:
"Enjoy the wife you married as a young man! Lovely as an angel, beautiful as a rose—don’t ever quit taking delight in her body. Never take her love for granted! (Proverbs 5:12-18 MSG)
"Be good husbands to your wives. Honor them, delight in them. As women they lack some of your advantages. But in the new life of God’s grace, you’re equals. Treat your wives, then, as equals so your prayers don’t run aground." (1 Peter 3:7 MSG)
I want to help bring the passion back into your marriage so that you enjoy the wife of your youth. That means you'll never stop chasing each other around the house and grossing out your kids because of the way you love one another. You can win your wife's heart! I'm not just talking about a date night, although that's important. I'm talking about wooing her even after you've said, "I do."
Here are 4 quick tips to help you date your wife and win her heart.
1) You don't have to get in touch with your "feminine" side if you get in touch with hers! Your woman wants to feel safe, connected, excited & significant. For example, sometimes your wife doesn't need you to "fix it." She just needs you to hold her & tell her it's gonna be ok. Look for ways to connect with her on daily basis.
2) A 90 year old man shared this advice for dating your wife: "Provide real leadership, not the bossy kind, but gentle illustrations of the fact that her well-being—physical, emotional, and spiritual—is a major concern in your life." This is HUGE! Show your wife that you're paying attention to her needs and that you're concerned with what she's concerned with.
3) Marriage researchers have discovered that simply doing something NEW can bring back feelings of excitement and romance! Something as simple as going on a LUNCH date instead of a dinner date can refresh your relationship. Don't let things get stale!
4) If she has to remind you, it's not romantic. Romance says, "You're on my mind. I'm doing this because I want to, not because I have to." A phone call, a text, or a card a small ways you can show her she's on your mind.
I'm excited to annouce that I've locked myself away into the "Romance Lab" and I'm hard at work on an eBook that will give you more tips on what to say and "How-To's" so you can strengthen your marriage and win your wife's heart. You'll be irresistable to your wife! Please send me your most pressing questions about how to date your wife here so I can answer them in the eBook!
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