Hi, it’s Dr. Aesha. Thanks for visiting my website!
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I’m passionate about helping smart, successful sisters be found by the man they’ve always been looking for.
Well, I remember being where you are.
I started graduate school after a bad breakup with my (ex) fiancé.
I was newly single and decided to take a break from dating. I ended up in a relationship with an emotionally unavailable “Bad boy” who promised he was looking for marriage but was a just a church player.
I was at a turning point. Everyone told me because I was young, getting a PhD, and African American, that I’d have to settle. “You’re too independent.” “You’re too smart.” “You’ll intimidate a man.” “You’ll probably have to marry an older white man because Black men can’t handle you.”
Now I have nothing against older white men, but the vision I had of the relationship I wanted didn’t include them! At the same time Oprah, CNN, ABC News and The Washington Post were reporting that 42% of all high-achieving, super-successful single Black woman were unmarried with headlines like, “Why are so many Black women single?” “Marriage is elusive for educated Black women?” as though there was something wrong with us!
On top of this bad news, I was frustrated by all the dating advice out here:
“Just life your life! The right man will come along.”
“Wait on God. He’ll send you the right person.”
“Don’t do anything. If he’s the one, he’ll see your worth.”
I refused to believe I couldn’t have a fabulous relationship. I wanted marriage and believed I was a good catch. Why could my friends (all 7 of them!) get married, and I had to keep waiting?
I got serious about finding love, read books, went to seminars and sifted through a lot of advice out there to get to the real secrets that would help me meet and marry the man of my dreams in 11 short months.
We met while we were both teaching at a university. My husband was an officer in the US Navy at the time, and so, we eventually moved to the West Coast with a toddler in tow.
How does a college professor become a matchmaker and dating coach?
I walked away from a career as a college professor to stay home with our daughter. As I adjusted to life as a stay-at-home mom, I noticed that all my girlfriends were asking me for dating advice.
They were wondering why it seemed like everyone else was finding a husband, except them.
They hadn’t been on a real date in years.
Some of them had a long-term relationship that they thought would last forever but ended in heartbreak.
Others were focused on building their careers but realized that while they enjoyed traveling, shopping and living the single life, deep inside they longed for an authentic relationship with someone who loved, supported and respected them.
Others were waiting on the guy they were dating to seal the deal and couldn’t figure out what else they needed to do to get him to put a ring on it!
For my sista-friends, dating was frustrating and taking up a lot of their time and energy.
I shared with my friends what worked for me and they started meeting great guys, getting engaged, celebrating weddings and having babies (even after 40)!
I wanted to help other sisters who wanted to find and keep love, so I put all I learned in a book and launched this webiste. Since then, I’ve expanded my services to include matchmaking, dating coaching, and more.
I realized there’s lot of dating and relationship advice out there that you could choose to listen to. You’ve probably already read all the books, checked out all the blogs, tried the different dating sites and you’re wondering how I can help you.
Here’s what you can expect from me that you won’t get anywhere else:
- A lot of dating advice is disempowering Black women! With my academic background in researching African American women’s voices, I noticed that a lot of what matchmakers and relationship gurus tell black women doesn’t take into account our diverse experiences as smart, successful, sassy, spiritual people.
- I created Black Love University, the Internet’s ONLY comprehensive coaching program for successful Black women designed to address the specific challenges sisters have in dating.
- I bust the media myths that if you’re Black, female, and successful, marriage is out of your reach! I’m here to tell you that BlackWomenMatter in our dating, relationships and marriage!
- I answer the question: “Where are all the good Black men?” They’re out there sisters, and I can help you attract one!
- I believe you need a fresh perspective on men, dating, relationships and marriage. If you want to get what you’ve never had, you’ve got to do something you’ve never done.
Most of all, I keep it real and share with you what it’s really going to take to attract Mr. Right into your life so you can create a powerful family legacy with your purpose partner!
No matter where you are in your journey, you’ll find free resources here that will help you. Take a look around and let me know how I can serve you!
To learn more about my programs, including matchmaking and Black Love University, contact me here
Aesha Adams-Roberts, PhD, is The Black Love Matchmaker, the premier dating coach and relationship expert for successful Black women. Dr. Aesha works one-on-one, in group and in workshop settings to help smart, successful sisters create and sustain powerful relationships. She’s been featured on GSN’s hit matchmaking show, “It Takes A Church” and is a expert writer for BlackandMarriedwithKids.com and Meld, the dating app for Black professionals.
As a matchmaker, Dr. Aesha works with affluent African Americans, Christians and diverse singles and introduces them to high-quality singles they wouldn’t meet on their own.
As a dating coach, Dr. Aesha helps singles get past their dating blind spots and limiting beliefs about themselves, men and relationships, so they can attract higher-quality men.
As a relationship expert, she debunks and decodes myths about marriage that keep women singe and unhappily married and invites women to “flip the script” and create their own empowering love story.
As a powerful speaker, Dr. Aesha empowers & educates audiences with her unique combination of wisdom, inspiration and song. A powerhouse singer, Aesha’s performances have been uplifting, encouraging and inspiring audiences since she was a child.
Dr. Aesha holds a PhD in Rhetoric and Composition from The Pennsylvania State University (University Park), a Master’s Degree in English From The Pennsylvania State University (University Park) and a Bachelor’s Degree in English & Secondary Education from Marquette University. Her professional background as an English professor was rooted in recovering and understanding black women’s unique communication styles. Dr. Aesha was passionate about helping students find their voices in her writing classes. After 10 years in higher education, she has redirected her skills as a teacher, researcher and communicator in a powerful way, to help people find love.
She is happily married and lives with her husband and 2 children in California.