"I'm getting married!! June 22nd 2013!! And I'm so happy!! Thanks for all you do!:)" - X. Taylor

Before reading your book, I had been married two times for a total of almost 22 years and have been divorced for 7 years. I had not even considered dating again because I did not have a road map or a sister/mentor to guide me; I was unwilling to take a risk of repeating my past relationship and marriage failures.

I wept as I read your book as I realized exactly WHAT mistakes I made that led to failure in all my romantic relationships AND what I could actively do, not only to avoid those pitfalls, but move ahead confidently. Just ONE bit of wisdom from your book turned the lights on! The pile of the nuggets of wisdom that filled the pages kept turning up the wattage! --Joy Randall

"Aesha you are wise beyond your years. I hope women who want to learn about men and not just scratch the surface will grab a cup of coffee or tea and your book!" –Sheila Bayne

"Thanks for all you are doing for single women like me. You are amazing!” –Mary Higgs

"Aesha,
I am so blessed by you I could just cry cause I am so touched! Your life is so beautiful and you have NO Idea how God has used you in my life. Every-time you update your status I get it to come through to my phone. I never comment because I don't get the whole status and I want to make sure I've read the whole thing if I comment. BUT you inspire me!"
–Sharon Detwiler Stoltzfus

"I'm learning more and more each day about me and about life and dating (which by the way, used to be taboo). Don't know how we ever got to know anyone without it. Anyway, keep spreading your wisdom, we need it! I thank God for you! Even at 40+ I'm learning something from you! Thanks!"
–Tonya Adair

"Hip-Hop and Rap paint such a negative image about our men and women, I am proud to see the positive direction you and RJ have taken to let the younger generation know that there are beautiful relationships amongst African American men and women. Love Auntie Kay (Texas Style)"
–A Kay Gossett Roberts

"I also realized how privileged I am to know such a genuine woman; one whose mission is to empower men and women who have a desire to build solid, loving relationships that are built upon the foundation of Christ Jesus and His Word. More than any time in history, with all the relationship “reality” dating shows, this society is crying out for truth about real love. This world is in desperate need of relationship repair! Coming from a broken home, I too had fears of marriage, but Aesha gave me a piece of advice that showed me that God wants to use me to break that curse in my family lineage."
--Thea Woods

Wow, it’s good to know that we can still remain positive and cherish what really matters no matter what life throws at us. Aesha, you’re such an inspiration.
--Ronke Alao

Outstanding article today Aesha! You really help put in perspective the thing that causes us to hold back, fight, cheat, give up, etc. It may come in many forms, but it all boils down to resistance. Now that we recognize that it’s resistance that we’re fighting against we must do something to not allow resistance to overcome us. You’ve helped us in the first step of the overcoming process by identifying the problem. Resistance!! Thank you so much for what you are doing. Your helping many lives with your blogs and posts.
--Roy Roberts

Hi Aesha,

I completely relate to this blog post. Lots of times you don’t even see the emotional abuse coming. It does start with something as simple as your outfit or your hair. This was me over 10 years ago. I walked away from a situation that would have destroyed my life. God is so good. He told me I wasn’t going to get married. At first I was alarmed and thought something was going to happen. A few months later everything fell apart (PRAISE GOD!).