Are There Any Good Men Out There?
By: Dr. Aesha
You’ve been on my mind the past few days. It’s like I can feel the struggle inside of you.
If you’re a single woman and you’re thinking about taking my new 6 week online dating coaching program, I know what you’re thinking.
“Are there any good, honest, sincere men out there?”
I know where you’re coming from. After a painful on-again, off-again relationship with my fiance, I finally broke it off, only to end up in the arms of a player! After that I swore I’d never be hurt again and I ended up in a dating drought.
No one approached me.
No one asked me out.
I realized it was because I was asking the wrong question! “Are there any good guys out there” is a question full of doubt, fear, frustration and even anger. When I changed my question, I got a different result. I met and married my husband in 11 short months.
What would happen if YOU changed your focus?
Your question determines your focus. And you always get what you focus on.
I’ll prove it.
Just the other day, a MAN wrote me on Facebook and said he was thinking of trying my coaching program but then said, “I was a member of blackpeoplemeet. com and all I met were women who had needs better suited for your local dept of social services to address.”
A sister spoke up and said, “I’m on BPM…it’s been different for me…I’m a professional woman who desires marriage. The men I come across are ready to marry however I might not have any chemistry with them. Great men are out there along with great women.”
How could 2 people on the same site have totally different experiences?
Because whatever you ask, the brain provides an answer.
Ask, “Why does this always happen to me?” and the brain spits out past experiences when you made stupid mistakes.
Ask, “Why can’t I lose weight?” and the brain says, “Because you won’t stop eating those chocolate chips at midnight, silly!”
Ask, “Are there any good men out there?” and the brain says, “Of course not. Look at the last guy! He was horrible! You don’t deserve love anyway.”
I know for a FACT that there are good men out there who want to meet good women like you, because as a matchmaker, I talk to them every day. They’re just as frustrated as you are!
So here’s the breakthrough: If you change the question, you get a more empowering answer!
Instead of asking, “are there any good men out there,” ask, “WHERE are the good men and HOW can I get one?!”