Dear Dr. Aesha,
How do you feel about a guy dating two friends? Meaning he took one girl on a date, they don’t hit it off and don’t have good chemistry and then at a later date, he meets her friend and they hit it off and have a lot of chemistry. He asks her out. Should the first friend be upset though she knows her and the guy didn’t have what it took? She “grabbed him” first so she should own all rights to him? This actually happens in church a lot too and causes so much division but there are really but so many men coming through, and sometimes it takes a few tries to get it right. So – Is “girl code” selfish, or is it to be adhered to no matter what?”
Well sis, Girl Code is the unspoken code of conduct, “The Golden Rule” if you will, that is supposed to protect our friendships when we start dating. Sisters over misters is the gold standard and it means your best friend’s ex, current boyfriend or potential love interest is off limits if you are true friend. Most women will agree to these codes, but start bending the rules when you live in areas where there’s a man shortage such as small towns, college campuses, and churches.
So, are there ever any times when the GIRL CODE should be broken?
Watch today’s episode for my guidelines:
So what do you think? Is it ever ok to break “girl code?” Have you ever lost a friendship due to a romantic relationship? Share your thoughts and comments below!