How To Know When To Call It Quits In A Relationship
By: Aesha Adams-Roberts
I'm here to help you find and keep the love of your life. So why in the world would I share advice on how to know when to call it quits in a relationship? Because every second you spend with the wrong one is a second you're not with "The One."
I know because in almost all of my dating relationships I stayed way past the expiration date! I also have coached women and men who want to fight to save a relationship that's already over.
Sometimes we stay too long. So how do you know when you should stay in a relationship that isn't going anywhere or when you should call it quits?
I'm not one to tell a person what to do when it comes to their relationships. I've learned a long time ago that matters of the heart can be tricky. Even if you know in your head what to do, your heart can often keep you stuck. So instead of telling you what to do, I'll share some empowering tips to help you make a wise decision for your life.
3 Signs That You Should Call It Quits In A Relationship
1. You Don't Share Core Values Or Common Goals
You don't want kids. He does. You want marriage. He's not sure. It's been 3 years and he still can't make up his mind. Ancient wisdom says, "Do two people walk hand in hand if they aren’t going to the same place?" (Amos 3:3 MSG)
If you've realized you and your partner don't share core values or common goals, you're at a fork in the road. You have two options: 1) Compromise and settle for a relationship without your needs being met OR 2) walk away.
2. Listen To Your Body
Healthy relationships should be easy. Sure, there's conflict, but too much drama can be a sign that this isn't a right fit for your life.
If there's more stress in your relationship than joy, it could be time to step back and look at the signs. Feelings buried alive never die. They tend to show up somewhere in your body! If you listen to what your body is telling you, you'll get a clearer sense of what to do.
3. Listen To Your Intuition
I know it sounds a little woo-woo, but you have a spiritual gift of discernment. It's the still, small voice of God giving you direction, wisdom and answers. To hear it, you have to quiet the other voices in your head! Grab a journal and answer the following questions:
- What will it cost me to stay?
- What will it cost me to leave?
If the price of staying is too high, then it's time to walk away.
Relief comes when you make a decision. I'm here to support you every step of the way!
I'm curious: Have you ever stayed too long in a relationship? How did you know when it was time to call it quits? Please share your story.