Insight Into The Male Mind: The Inside Scoop On What He's Really Thinking
By: Aesha Adams Roberts
Does he like me or is he just being nice? Is he keeping secrets from me? I remember being so frustrated with dating and relationships because it seemed that some of the men I liked were sending me mixed signals. One man in particular seemed to have all the qualities I was looking for: good looking, respectful, a Christian with a heart for youth and overseas missions, and a hard worker. Some days he'd act like he was into me, while other days it seemed I was invisible to him. I couldn't put my finger on it. It was all a mystery to me. I wasted a lot of time thinking something was wrong with ME, simply because I didn't understand how men think.
Have you ever wondered what men really think about love? Or about women in particular? Have you wasted time trying to figure out what they want?
A couple of weeks ago I surveyed the men who are a part of our Facebookcommunity. I was surprised with what they told me. (I've only used their initials to honor their privacy):
Me: Brothers help us out: What 3 things do you wish women knew about men that would help us treat you better?
Pastor MDR: That we don't think like you do. That we need to lead even though we know who really is in charge. And we hate to have things held against us even after we have apologized. 1, 2, and 3. I'm just saying… Fellas help me out here.
JW: That the tough exterior is just a front and the words you say to us do cut deep sometimes. 2nd, that it is nothing against you if I tell my mom something and not you, and third that when I'm quiet and not talking that's just what I want, to be quiet with no talking. This is just how I feel 🙂
GA: 1. Realize that if a man who "loves" you has revealed something to you that you necessarily didn't want to hear, that it's the closest thing to truth that he has ever told you. 2. We know you work hard raising the children and maintaining the home. We know how hard the work is, but make sure not to assume that men are getting a "break" or going on vacation when we head to work. We are working pretty hard, too and trying not to get fired. 3. Make sure home is a place that a man would want to come home to. No daily resentment for being away from home, no extra criticism for our shortcomings. Otherwise men will find somewhere else to go after work.
Does any of this surprise you? Be careful, because it's easy to get defensive when a man shares his heart. But a BIG KEY to finding and keeping your DREAM MAN is to develop LISTENING SKILLS. Learn how to listen to men without getting defensive, without judging, and without trying to prove your point. Just listen and you'll find out what's in his heart. As Ancient Wisdom says, "The mouth speaks what the heart is full of" (Luke 6:45) If you'll listen, you'll find out who he really is!
Men have a lot of pressure on them to be the "Dream Man," and we women expect a lot from them. But do you know what men really need? Are you ready to meet their needs?
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