Are men intimidated by strong, successful Black women?
That’s a question I posed to a group of over 100 professional singles–both men and women–this past weekend. And the responses were so real & raw, the conversation was LIT!
I apparently touched a nerve with the fellas and the sistas. Maybe you can relate? Holla if any of these scenarios sound familiar…
You meet someone on BlackPeopleMeet whose profile says he has an MBA from Harvard, an honorary PhD, and a six-figure job. His parents have been married for over 40 years, and he says he’s looking for a wife. His profile picture depicts a confident, clean-cut brother, and he is one of the first to inbox you when you put your profile up.
After a few text message conversations, you casually mention that you’re so excited that you’re in the market for a new house and he innocently asks to see pictures of homes you’ve been visiting. After you send them he says, “Are you expecting the man you’re with to keep up this lifestyle?”
You mention to the man you’ve been seeing for the last 3 months that you’re excited about your upcoming trip to Belize. He gets quiet, then tells you that you should be saving your money instead of wasting it on so many trips. He tells you he’s not going to support such a frivolous lifestyle (as though you were expecting him to do that for you anyway).
You step into your first date wearing your favorite pair of Red Bottoms and a fresh weave. The date seems to go well, although you were a little confused about what he meant when he said he was still single because he couldn’t find a woman who wasn’t so materialistic. After the date, he walks you back to your car. When he sees it’s a 2017 Benz, he shouts out, “Dang, girl! You got it like that?!”
Maybe you’ve had someone make assumptions about you before they even say hello. He assumes you’re not interested because you carry yourself like you don’t play games. Or when he finds out you’re an MD, PhD, or JD, and you live in a nice home, he suddenly becomes too busy to talk anymore. Maybe you’ve had guys asking you for money to pay rent or student loans or airplane tickets because they think you got it like that.
You’re not even one of those sisters who asks a brother for his credit score on a first date. Yes, you’d like him to bring something to the table, but as long as he’s stable and wants to build something with you, you’re all good!
All of it makes dating and relationships exhausting. You feel like you can’t trust that a man is being genuine or not. You wonder if there’s a man out there who won’t make money an issue in a relationship.
Where is that man, the one who won’t try to compete with you, but who will COVER you with his love and support?
Where is the man who won’t tell you how to shop, what to drive or where to travel, but will make plans to do it with you?
And where is the man who won’t reject you because of your accomplishments? He’ll stick around because he knows you’re more than what you do for a living and he’ll be right beside you as your biggest supporter.
If you feel like you should just make plans to spend the rest of your life alone…
If you’re tired of money and success being an issue in your relationships…
If you refuse to settle any longer for men who say they have dreams, but never take action…
Then you MUST join me for my luxury retreat, Be Found, on June 23-25, 2017 in Los Angeles, CA. <<CLICK HERE TO SAVE $500 on the regular ticket price>>
Spend three amazing days with me and an intimate group of like-minded, fabulous sisters in heart-healing, soul-pampering, and body-nourishing, and I’ll show you exactly how to attract the man who is actively looking for a woman who is successful.
They are out there, sisters, but the problem is, you’re making unconscious mistakes that PUSH them away.
- Making him feel useless because you’ve got every area of your life handled and he doesn’t know where he fits in.
- Taking control of the relationship because you don’t trust that he’ll do things the right way.
And the most deadly mistake of all…
- …never dropping your guard, getting vulnerable, or showing him your not-so-put-together side (or worse yet, being vulnerable with the WRONG man who takes advantage of you).
The result is that you’re always in Strong Black Woman mode. You know how to get stuff done, you stay busy, you accomplish your goals, but you rarely allow anyone to pour into you. As a result, you carry the wrong energy that men can see a mile away, and they make assumptions about who you are. It’s not your fault, though. No one has taught you how to balance your strength and your softer side, and to live beyond the Strong Black Woman Syndrome. The only solution is to let go of limiting beliefs about yourself, men and relationships, and learn how to receive love because of who you are, not because of what you do.
You also need to learn new feminine leadership communication skills that will help you talk about your success and money in ways that reveal what your relationship requirements are, establish your boundaries and get what you want from men.
You’re going to all get that and more at the retreat because I’ve designed it to transform you mind, body, and soul through the power of pampering. You’ll leave Replenished, Rejuvenated, and Ready to go from single to committed in the fastest time possible!
Right now, you can join me for just $497 (that’s $500 off the regular price of the ticket). You’ll never see this price again and if you don’t take action by midnight on Friday, you will be locked out. Don’t delay, because I only put aside a few tickets at this price, and they’re already going fast!
I’ll see you there!
P.S. You could be my next success story. Just listen to this testimonial from Kim, a 40-year-old, successful lawyer who went from single to committed in 6 months using my teachings:
“I made the decision to give it a chance because I knew in my heart that I needed a catalyst for change if I really wanted to focus on opening myself up and finding love. I figured, “Why not!? What do I have to lose?” I rely on experts in every other facet of my life and career so why is dating any different? Society tells us that love should just happen but the reality is, for most, it doesn’t… there has to be a concerted effort and focus and I figured if Dr. Aesha could help me shift my focus and give me a few practical tips along the way, it was well worth the money. I was right! I never would have met my boyfriend if it weren’t for Dr. Aesha. He very much knows what he wants and is ready to settle down with the right woman. A major plus is that he completely understands my career and that I am not able to easily relocate. He owns his own businesses where he can work from wherever and has indicated his willingness to relocate if things progress. I’m really excited about him and thankful that I didn’t listen to my first thought and close the door to him.
I had a bunch of rules in the past too but they did me no good! Once I got rid of them and started giving all kinds of men a chance, it’s been so much easier and far better! So, if you’re hesitant like me, give it a try! It might surprise you!’