AeshaOnline TV Episode #5: 3 Myths About Marriage That Keep Women Single (Or Unhappily Married) From Disney movies to reality TV shows, we're bombarded with so many messages about how we are supposed to meet, date, fall in love and live happily ever after. These stories seem harmless, but can actually create dating blind spots! In today's episode, Aesha discusses & debunks 3 common myths about marriage that are based on fantasies and fairy tales. These myths seem fun but will lead you into all the wrong relationships (and if you're married, cause unnecessary conflicts!). Grab a pen & paper because after today's powerful episode, you'll see men, marriage & yourself in an entirely new way. Click here to watch NOW! ...
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Too Busy To Date? Here's Your Customized Dating Plan By: Aesha Adams-Roberts Alexis* and Shannon* are two accomplished women over 35. (*Names have been changed). They're both driven, ambitious, beautiful, and talented. These smart, successful sistas are at the top of their game in their respective careers and they're ready to settle down and start a family. They're also both too busy to date. The difference between them is this: Shannon hired a matchmaker so that all she had to do was show up on her dates; she knows that she needs to invest time to find the right person & start a relationship with him, so she's making doing what it takes to make it work. Alexis on the other hand, told me the custom online dating plan I desgined for her was, "too much work. I'm too busy with my job and volunteering and church and working out and having a life, and . . . " As a dating coach, a reply like this is a big red flag. One one hand you tell me you really want to be married and have kids. And it all has to happen NOW because you're over 35 and your biological clock is ticking.On the other hand, you're too busy to date so you can find your ideal partner. What's really holding you back? Why are you sabotagoing yourself? Do you really want to be in a relationship? What do you want? There are many reasons why Alexis could be standing in her own way. Here are some of the mindsets that I tend to see among smart, successful women who are too busy to date: You can't have it all! Something will have...
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This is probably the most emotional post I have written all year. In a few hours, we'll say goodbye to 2013 and embrace a fresh, new start in 2014. I want to share a few thoughts with you that will inspire you to find and keep love in 2014. But first, let me share a quick story. Two years ago, today, I gave birth to a beautiful baby boy! From conception to delivery, nothing went as planned. I endured 6 months of horrific, non-stop nausea, dehydration, drastic weight loss, hospital stays, home health care, weekly IV's and other invasive medical procedures. It was not what I expected. My husband was so supportive and stepped up to take care of everything. By the time I was ready to deliver, I was praying for a speedy delivery so I could finally hold my baby in my arms. The birth was not what I expected. "It's not supposed to be like this!" I wailed (or maybe YELLED is more accurate). I was too far along for any pain medication. I'd have to give birth naturally, but because the doctor wasn't around, I had to endure intense labor for an additional 25 minutes before I could deliver our son! "You can do this. You are strong," the nurse assured me. I didn't believe her. All I wanted was relief. At some point, however, between contractions, I had to decide to let go of how I thought things should be & accept them for what they were. No doctor. No epidural. Just me, my husband, my mom (on the phone) and a team of nurses. Gratefully, I delivered...
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Aesha Online TV: Episode #4: 3 Simple Ways To Get A Man To Fall In Love With You What makes a high-quality, relationship-minded man fall in love? In today's rapidly changing dating world, men have more options, more experience & more expectations than ever before. This can make dating frustrating and confusing, especially when the guy you like suddenly disappears. Fortunately, getting a man to love you is not that complicated. In this episode, I reveal how you can become the woman he'll NEVER leave without giving up your strong, successful side. Grab a pen & paper because these exact secrets helped me meet, date & marry the man of my dreams in just 11 months! (If you're already in a relationship or married, these secrets can help your man fall in love with you all over again!) WATCH NOW!...
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BIG NEWS!!!!!! This year has been filled many challenges and dramatic life-changes. (I'm sure you could say the same) As a result, I've learned how important rest, playfulness and contentment is to staying happy in my life and relationships. I've also learned how important rest is if I want to continue to serve you and the world with the message God has given me. In fact, it was in a moment of resting in God's presence last week that I heard him whisper in my heart that He wanted me to help MORE people find and keep love. After all, God is love! I believe with all my heart that when healthy, life-giving relationships are created and when marriages are healed and restored, God's nature is revealed. So I've answered the call. In 2014, I will become a certified matchmaker and dating and relationship coach!!!!!!!! Through my matchmaking firm, we'll arrange dates and match couples looking for serious relationships and marriage. We'll also create coaching programs and classes to help you create, attract and keep the relationship you desire! I'll still be here serving you with relationship tips and advice through my newsletter, blog, videos and on social media. I'm on a mission to be a powerful force of love in the world in 2014. It's going to be an exciting journey and I invite you to join me! With love, Aesha ...
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Merry Christmas from my family to yours! It's such an honor to connect with you and serve you every day. I pray you'll experience God's richest blessings today and always. As a special gift, I recorded one of my favorite Christmas songs for you to enjoy. Click here to listen to Have Yourself A Merry Little Christmas here: Love, peace, comfort & joy, ...
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"Where Are All The Available Men?" How To Find A Man Who Is Ready For A Relationship By: Aesha Adams-Roberts "Where are all the available men?" "There are no good men in [insert your city here]!" I can't tell you how many times I've heard this from frustrated, single women looking for a relationship-ready man. These successful sistas aren't complaining about the men/women ratios in their particular city; they're fed up with meeting the wrong kind of man! Let me help a sista out! If you approached your "man search" with the same mindset as a job search, you'd have better results. Instead of asking "where are all the available men?" ask "how can I find a man who's serious about a relationship?" It seems like a small tweak, but changing the question from where to how, does one of two things: 1) assumes that there are available men 2) sets you up to search for solutions Here's how to find a man who is ready for a relationship: 1) Ask your family and friends to introduce you to someone: This can be done in person or in cyberspace! For example, you could search your friends' Facebook profiles for available men and ask your friend to connect you. Or you could do it the old-fashioned way, and go on a blind date. You could also plan a get-together and ask your friends and family to bring at least one single guy. 2) Use online dating. There are millions of people online; Nearly 1/5 of marriages have started from online dating! In addition to the big sites like Match.com, Eharmony.com, and BlackPeopleMeet.com I've seen specialty online dating sites for...
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The Secret To Successful, Long-Term Relationships By: Aesha Adams-Roberts What's the secret to successful, long-term relationships? I wanted to ask the couple celebrating 50 years of marriage that question. My husband and I were celebrating our 7th year wedding anniversary and noticed the couple as they walked in the restaurant because of their matching T-shirts: "The First 50 Years Are The Hardest," the shirts read. I think the message on the shirt summed up whatever advice they would have given me. I imagine they would have told me that being "in love" isn't enough to sustain a long-term relationship. I love the goose bumps, butterflies in the stomach, fireworks, rainbows and unicorns that come with falling in love. But if you ask any couple who is honest and who has been together for a long time, that "goose bump-butterflies-fireworks-rainbows-unicorns" feeling can fade. When your kids won't sleep at night or you're exhausted from a long day at work, or your libido disappeared after pregnancy, it's not those "in love" feelings that will keep you and your spouse together. There's got to be something deeper. I like this quote from psychologist Erich Fromm's book, The Art of Loving: “Love is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise. If love were only a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other forever. A feeling comes and it may go. How can I judge that it will stay forever, when my act does not involve judgment and decision.” The secret to lasting, long-term relationships is the decision to make a commitment to the commitment. This commitment is defined by consistency; it's...
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