AeshaOnline TV Episode #8: What To Do When The Men In Your Town Suck By: Aesha Adams-Roberts Have you ever said, "There are no good men in my city!" I've heard women complain about the dating scene in their town from LA to New York and everywhere in between! How can this be? Have aliens abducted all the good men and placed them on planet Mars? NO! It can seem this way with the male to female ratios in some locations. However, there are ways to gain control of your dating life and find, attract and keep high-quality men right in your area. In this episode, I explain why the men in your city aren't dateable and what you can do as a smart, successful, savvy woman to stand out from the crowd and find your perfect partner. WATCH NOW!...
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The Secret to Getting Your Man To Listen To You . . . Without Nagging, Complaining, or Screaming! By Aesha Adams-Roberts I recently had a conversation with a beautiful, successful, single woman who has found the man of her dreams. As we talked about what was holding her back from marrying this man, (even though he wants to marry her), one of the things she said was, “whenever I try to talk with him, I can’t find the right words. So I just scream!” This sister is not alone. The fact is many women struggle with communicating. Whether it’s knowing what to say when first meeting a man, knowing what to talk about on a date, or communicating your needs in such a way that a man can’t help but fulfill them, few women know the secrets to getting a man to listen. Knowing how to communicate with other people is a key to success in life. And without good communication skills, the happiness in a relationship will not last long. Sadly, most people weren’t groomed with the kind of skills that make communication easy and fun. As a result, we often sound like 3 year olds who nag, complain, or scream when we don’t get our way. It's no wonder many men shut down when it’s time to have a serious talk with their woman. Let’s talk about how to communicate with your man in such a way that he wants to listen to you. Most women make the mistake of bringing up an important topic at the very moment they think about it. As one sister told me on Facebook: With men, timing is...
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AeshaOnline TV Episode #7: How To Find Your Perfect Partner By: Aesha Adams-Roberts As a dating coach, relationship expert and professional matchmaker, singles are always telling me their top "must-haves" in their ideal mate. Their perfect partner list include things like money, height and physical fitness. One woman told me she finds calloused hands & dirty shoes attractive in a man because it proves he knows how to work! However if what you're looking for is a 6-foot man with 6-pack abs and 6-figure salary, you may be selling yourself short! In this powerful episode, I share how tweaking this ONE thing on your ideal mate list can help you find your fantasy man faster. Click here to WATCH NOW! P.S. Please share this video with your friends & share your "aha-moments" in a comment below! ...
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First Date Dealbreakers That Drive Men Away And How To Avoid Them By: Aesha Adams-Roberts I almost blew it with my dream man! We were going to lunch at Panera Bread and I was making small talk as we drove from campus to the restaurant. Although I was teaching at a university in the Midwest at the time, I had an interview for a position at a university in the South that was coming up and I mentioned it as we chatted. Before I met him, I was trying everything in my power to land my dream job in the South. But now things had changed. Even though we weren’t officially dating, I knew that he was the kind of man I had been looking for. I knew that I wasn’t going to take the job but I didn’t tell him that. When I brought up the interview he said, “So this job is just temporary? You’re not really planning on staying here, huh?” There must have been something in his voice that made me realize that how I’d respond to his question could either make or break my chances with him. I could tell that he was trying to find out whether or not it was worth it to pursue a relationship with me. In other words, if I was serious about moving and he had no desire for a long distance relationship, I might have become less desirable for him. Why even take time getting to know me if things wouldn’t work out anyway? I thought about my answer to his question very carefully. “Well, I used to really want...
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Is There Only One True Love? Why Soul Mates Are Made, Not Born By: Aesha Adams-Roberts Is there only one true love for every person in the world? I used to think so. That false belief led me into unhealthy relationships. Let me explain. I met my ex-fiance at the age of 19. I thought he was "The One." We liked many of the same things and shared many of the same values. To top it all off, when asked by my father why he wanted to marry me, my ex said "The Lord told me to." (Real romantic, huh?) I struggled to let the relationship go even though all the signs of verbal and emotional abuse were there. I thought he was "the ONE" sent to me by God. "If only I prayed more or changed who I was, then things would work out," I reasoned. When I talked to his mother about what was going on in the relationship, she gave me a bit of advice I still remember to this day: "He's not your only option." I was confused. In graduate school, I met another guy who announced, "God said you are my wife." He was nothing like the kind of man I'd prayed for, but if God said it, I reasoned, then maybe He was giving me what I needed, not what I wanted. (I KNOW you've heard that one before). Things quickly unraveled when I discovered he was dating other women on the side. Ironically, my husband never said anything about the will of the Lord or fate or destiny or any other phrase...
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AeshaOnline TV Episode #6: "If He Likes Me, Why Didn't He Ask Me Out?" By: Aesha Adams-Roberts Welcome to this episode of AeshaOnline TV! Dating can be a lot of fun, but it can also be frustrating & confusing: He calls you, but says you're just friends; He sends you all the signs that he's interested and available, but never asks you out. When this happened to me when I was single, I wanted to yell, WHY DO MEN DO THAT?! In today's episode, I answer this question sent in from a viewer who is frustrated because men flirt with her, but never ask her out. I explain how men can be interested in you but not want to date you, PLUS what you can do about it so that you stay in control of your love life. WATCH NOW! ...
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4 Reasons Why He Didn't Call You Back By: Aesha Adams-Roberts You had a “great” first date: He seemed to really like you and he promised to call you back. Then . . . days pass with you staring at your phone, waiting for the follow-up call that never comes. Worse yet, you spend even more time trying to figure out what you did wrong to scare him away. "Maybe he's not ready for a relationship? Was he really attracted to me? He's just intimidated by my success. . ." Why didn't he call you back? Rachel Greenwald has an answer for you in her bestselling book, Have Him At Hello: Confessions From 1,000 Guys About What Makes Them Fall In Love . . . Or Never Call Back. As a matchmaker and dating coach, Greenwald wanted to figure out why some of her clients had great first dates that fizzled out while others turned into amazing relationships. She decided to ask the guys in what she called "Exit Interviews." With permission from her clients, Greenwald called the dates and asked them straight up: Why didn't you call her back? The resulting feedback was surprising: 90% of the time, the women were wrong about why a guy disappeared! With results from 1000 interviews, Greenwald was able to pinpoint 10 major dating patterns and mistakes women were making on first dates and in the early stages of a relationship. One reason people struggle to find the right mate is they don't have feedback. You're dating in the dark, doomed to repeat the same mistakes, if you don't know what your date really experiences when they're out on the town with you. Using the feedback...
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AeshaOnline TV Episode #5: 3 Myths About Marriage That Keep Women Single (Or Unhappily Married) From Disney movies to reality TV shows, we're bombarded with so many messages about how we are supposed to meet, date, fall in love and live happily ever after. These stories seem harmless, but can actually create dating blind spots! In today's episode, Aesha discusses & debunks 3 common myths about marriage that are based on fantasies and fairy tales. These myths seem fun but will lead you into all the wrong relationships (and if you're married, cause unnecessary conflicts!). Grab a pen & paper because after today's powerful episode, you'll see men, marriage & yourself in an entirely new way. Click here to watch NOW! ...
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