Stay Connected No Matter What: Tips For Maintaining Rewarding Relationships
By: Aesha Adams-Roberts
Do you ever feel like you're so busy you put your relationship last? Work. Kids. Church. Travel. The list goes on and on. My own husband and I have faced this challenge in our relationship, through deployment, pregnancies, newborns, crazy working schedules and more. We've discovered that life doesn't get any less busy. To maintain a rewarding relationship you have to be intentional about staying connected, no matter what!
Here are 3 tips for busy families and couples:
1) Don't Forget The Little Things
Be sure to make daily deposits into your love account. Holding hands, hugging, kissing, love notes & texts are all little things that add up! Remember: NO DEPOSIT, NO WITHDRAWAL
2) Learn To Hold Onto Each Other In The Hard Times
As Dr. John Gottman says, "Most arguments are about absolutely nothing." I remember letting my anxiety about my husband's employment situation affect how we talked to each other. Even though the hiring freeze was beyond our control, I realized I could control my attitude towards it. The bottom line: don't let life drive you apart.
3) Take Advantage Of The Time That You Do Have
No matter how busy you are, let your family and your significant other know that they matter to you. You can do that by creating rituals that keep you connected. For example, in our home, the family table is where we reconnect after a long day. Over dinner we ask, "So what did you do today?" We teach our kids to listen and to contribute to the conversation as well. If my husband is traveling on business, we use Skype or Facetime to stay connected as a couple and as a family.
You can stay connected and maintain a nurturing and rewarding relationship, even when you're busy. Stay focused on what matters: building a life together!
What about you? How do you stay connected to your family when you're busy? Please share below!