Are you done with dating? Feel like giving up on love? I get it. You’re tired of all the games. You put up a dating profile only to get an inbox full of people you’d never say hi to in real life. You spend so much time and energy into the process that it feels like a full time job. Then, just when you meet someone who has potential, you find out he’s lying, cheating or just not that into you. Or maybe you’ve gone through a really bad breakup with someone who told you he wanted marriage and family in the beginning and then one year later acts like YOU made it all up and he never even wanted a relationship in the first place. You feel like you opened your heart and got nothing in return except wasted time. And the last thing you want to do is waste your time! So it’s easy to just give up on love. Go back to school. Focus on enjoying your life. Travel, hang out with friends and family and do bad all by yourself. If you feel this way, I want you to know you’re not alone. In fact, just this week I got a question from Gabby who writes, “Hello Dr Aesha. How do you keep going with dating, because I gave up.” Let’s have a sista-to-sista talk in today’s episode where I share the secret to keeping dating until you meet The One. Click the video below to watch: Now tell me, are you done with dating? Do you need some inspiration to believe in love again?... Read More
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Hi Dr. Aesha, So it’s a long story but I really could use some advice. I’ve been engaged to a man for over a year. However we have known each other for 23 years. He was a single father and I was a single mother when we got together. Anyways, he suffers from OCD and not the typical type some have but the one like Howie Mandel. It’s so bad that his temper gets the best of him at times and he can’t stay off a schedule. But it is one of the things that challenges our relationship. Another challenge is infidelity. I have trust issues from my past, I will admit, but in the beginning and throughout our relationship, he had received texts and calls from these random females who he either went on a date with, had sexual relations with or just flirted with. One who he claims he only went on a date with bothers me the most because last September she emailed him asking why he blocked her from social media, and if it was because he was engaged to me and still talking to her. I confronted him on this and he denied it but it caused him to start questioning our relationship. At this time, I put the ball in his court and told him to decide if he wanted to make a commitment to me and our family (we are expecting a child) or does he want to go back to the life he was living, as a bachelor sleeping with different women. He stated he needed time to think on this.... Read More
Have you been waiting? Waiting for the right man to come along? If so, I’ll bet you’re probably like many of my clients who end up spending Friday nights “Netflixing.” You know, catching up on Orange is the New Black, or watching some Tyler Perry movie, wishing that your life could turn out like that. He always has some smart, successful sister get rid of Mr. Wrong and then *poof!* out of nowhere, a hard-working, chocolate-skinned man bumps into her at Starbucks. He instantly knows she is his dream girl and he’s willing to do anything to tear down the walls she’s built around her heart to prove to her that he really loves her. Before you know it, they’re getting married in some insanely luxurious wedding! Sounds romantic, right? The problem is most men have no idea how to be that romantic leading man. Less than 5% of men are the confident, “Alpha Male” who know how to sweep you off your feet. So if you’re going to just snuggle up with your Oreos and Netflix this weekend, what do you think is going to happen? Yup. Nothing. Girl, the only man knocking on your door is either a Jehovah’s witness or the UPS guy! You’re going to have to get out there, meet some people and learn how to make men approach you. You have to smile and give a lot of eye contact. You have to have confident body language. You have to let go of your props, like your smartphone or big ole handbag, so that men will feel comfortable saying hi. You have to dress in a way that is feminine, sensual, and yes–even... Read More
I’m Still Hung Up On My Ex. How Do I Move On? By: Dr. Aesha Dear Dr. Aesha, I’ve been dating the same man off and on for 7 years. We tried living together twice but it didn’t work out (1) because I refuse to spend my life cleaning up after a man (2) he lived on Facebook but his page gave no indication that he was in a relationship (3) he disrespected me by staying out all night drinking (he say). We’re not together but we can’t just let each other go. I want to move on and find that special person so what can I do to cut ties because I still have feelings for him and do care about his well being. ******* I feel sorry for you, sis. In fact, I can empathize with you. I went back and forth with two of my exes before I had the courage to move on. So let me help you understand why you’re still hung up on your ex and how you can move on and find that special person who will respect and love you. There are two reasons you’re still attached to your ex: 1) You’ve created a soul tie with him. A soul tie is a deep emotional and spiritual connection that’s formed whenever you become intimate with someone. It’s a natural “side effect” that helps two people bond and stay attached. Unfortunately, this wasn’t a healthy relationship, so what was originally intended to be a great way to stay connected is now keeping you in BONDAGE to a man who isn’t good for you. ... Read More
Dear Dr. Aesha, After reading a few of your articles I truly am intrigued by your advice and wisdom. I am seeking to gain understanding of my current situation. A few months back I met a man, we had good chemistry on the first date and dates to follow. He truly would show interest in me; surprise Valentine’s Day date, supporting me at functions, listening to my issues and offering advice etc.. 3 months into dating we start talking about a few of his issues like unhappiness with himself, work progress and past relationships (his personal feelings made him think I was asking for a relationship, although I never did). So he thinks it’s best we break things off. I let him know that’s fine with me… I understand…. A month and a half later I reach out to say Hi, how are you doing. He says “I was just thinking about you earlier this week.” Go figure, right. He expressed he’d like for us to catch up and go out. I can’t lie. At this point I just brush him off. After a second conversation a few weeks later I ask him if he’s back on the dating scene. He avoids the question by saying “I am ready to see you again” noting that he isn’t ready for a relationship. I express that a relationship is the ultimate goal. So am I wasting my time if I entertain him again? I feel like after a few months this man should know if he’d want to pursue a relationship with me or not. ~Anonymous **** Hey girl, Here’s the short answer. Yes. You’re wasting your time. But I... Read More