What Do You Do If There’s No Chemistry On A Date? By: Dr. Aesha “Go out with someone four times before you decide the person is not for you. I don’t believe in first impressions.” ~Anne Teachworth I agree Ms. Teachworth: First impressions are overrated. Let me tell you why. When I first saw my husband, everything about him screamed “I am a confident, ALPHA male.” However, when he asked me out on our first real date, all of that went out the door. We look back and laugh about it now, but it was a really awkward moment. I’d invited Roy to spend Thanksgiving dinner with my family and he accepted even though he’d purchased tickets to Atlanta over a year ago, to spend the holidays with his friends. Something told him not to go, he told me once we’d started dating. He fit right in with my large, loud family and hung around until late that evening. There was this awkward silence as I tried to walk him to the door to say goodbye, because he wasn’t really moving toward the door. He was just standing there. Suddenly, his eyes widened, his body stiffened, and he blurted out: “You feel like going out?” I was so floored that it took me a minute to answer. It seemed like an eternity passed before I squealed, “YES!” I think we both let out a sigh of relief and then. . . more awkwardness as we tried to figure out where we should go for our first date. The entire date was awkward, including the moment he walked me back to... Read More
3 Questions To Ask On A First Date
3 Questions To Ask On A First Date By: Aesha Adams-Roberts If you want to find your soulmate, you have to get good at mastering the first date! I know first dates can range from awkward to disastrous, especially if you don't know what to talk about it! I've already shared the things women do that create disconnects during a first date (click here to read it if you missed it) and I've also written about awkward first dates and what to do about them. Let me help make dating easier, less nerve-wrecking, and more fun by sharing 3 questions to ask on a first date. These simple, yet powerful questions will help you make deeper connections with your date and help you instantly discover whether or not the man you're talking to is relationship material. 1. If you want to discover if he's the relationship–type you could ask: "What was the longest relationship you've ever had?" If he vents about his ex all night, you'll know he's not quite ready for a loving relationship with you. If he's NEVER had a long-term relationship, it could be a red flag that he doesn't know how to commit. If he's nostalgic about a past lover, don't get offended. It could be a sign he knows how to start and maintain a serious relationship. 2. If you want to find out what his core values are, you could ask: "What was the biggest decision you've ever made?" You can find out a lot about a person by how they make important decisions. You'll discover if he's a risk-taker or if he's more of a... Read More