Are There Any Good Men Out There? By: Dr. Aesha You’ve been on my mind the past few days. It’s like I can feel the struggle inside of you. If you’re a single woman and you’re thinking about taking my new 6 week online dating coaching program, I know what you’re thinking. “Are there any good, honest, sincere men out there?” I know where you’re coming from. After a painful on-again, off-again relationship with my fiance, I finally broke it off, only to end up in the arms of a player! After that I swore I’d never be hurt again and I ended up in a dating drought. No one approached me. No one asked me out. I realized it was because I was asking the wrong question! “Are there any good guys out there” is a question full of doubt, fear, frustration and even anger. When I changed my question, I got a different result. I met and married my husband in 11 short months. What would happen if YOU changed your focus? Your question determines your focus. And you always get what you focus on. I’ll prove it. Just the other day, a MAN wrote me on Facebook and said he was thinking of trying my coaching program but then said, “I was a member of blackpeoplemeet. com and all I met were women who had needs better suited for your local dept of social services to address.” A sister spoke up and said, “I’m on BPM…it’s been different for me…I’m a professional woman who desires marriage. The men I come across are ready to marry however I might not have...
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The Real Reason You're Single By: Dr. Aesha We've gotta talk about the real reason you're single. You see, I believe there's someone out there who will love you as much as you will love him. Do you believe that? Before you answer, let me give you some things to think about. It's possible for you to have an amazing relationship no matter your age, size or relationship history. I've seen it happen over and over again. So if you're struggling or frustrated, let me help you: It's not that hard to find or keep love. You just need a shift in mindset. Here are some little mindset tweaks you need to make if you want to find love: 1) Be an optimistic realist. Most people are creating hurdles for themselves by stacking their "must-have" ideal partner list with criteria that worked for them when they were in their 20s. If you're 35, 40 or beyond, the reality is you should be looking for the kind of person who is looking for you. I hear women tell me they don't want to date someone who's divorced. . .Or who is a single parent. . .Or who is short. . .Or who wants kids. The reality is many of the men your age have already been married or have kids or they WANT kids. I get it. You want what you want. You don't want to settle. However, when your criteria is getting in the way of finding love, I suggest you choose your top 3 must-haves and at least be open to meeting someone who doesn't fit the rest. 2. Broaden your dating pool Let me share...
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"What's wrong with me?" I've spent too many minutes, hours and days asking myself this question. Whenever I made a mistake as a mom or had an argument with my husband, I could hear this question resounding in my head. When I was dating, this question nagged me every time a relationship ended badly or I found myself at home alone on another Saturday night. Have you ever felt like this? Like you weren't good enough or smart enough or pretty enough or kind enough? If so, let me speak truth to you now. You are a good enough parent. You are a good enough spouse. You are a good enough person who is worthy of love and respect. Your mistakes, shortcomings and past failures do NOT define who you are. Your identity is based on the fact that you are accepted and deeply loved by God, just as you are, right now. It's time for YOU to accept yourself. You are good enough! Love, Aesha ...
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HUGE Announcement! It's The First "Can I Help a Sister Out" Wedding at AeshaOnline.com! By: Aesha Adams-Roberts This is Tiffany D. Johnson. She was the first person to get copy of my book, Can I Help a Sister Out: How To Meet and Marry the Man of Your Dreams when I released it in November 2010. One month later, she wrote me, telling me she met her dream man and she believed he was "the one." We developed a sisterhood over the following months and Tiffany would send me emails like, "I just wanted to let you know we're in pre-marital counseling! Things are going well. . . " Imagine my surprise when I got this direct message on Facebook from Tiffany on Saturday: "I just wanted you to be one of the first to know I got engaged last night!" It's a quick engagement too–they're getting married on December 7 of this year!!! HELLO! That's 2 months away! I'm in tears because my greatest desire when I wrote my book was to help people like Tiffany find their perfect match in 12 months or less and be confident that they are marrying the right one. And just in case you think Tiffany's story is a fairy tale, she's fought through abroken engagement, loneliness, and the fear that she'd never find Mr. Right! It's an honor to be a part of Tiffany's love story. I'd love to be a part of yours too! Click here to get started. Your sister, Aesha P.S. What if you met your perfect match before 2012 is over? Don't wait! Click here to start your...
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The One Thing Stopping You From Living the Life Of Your Dreams By: Aesha Adams-Roberts I recently shared on Facebook a small portion of the story of how I met my husband. It was mid October when we both attended a luncheon hosted by the Dean of the college where we both were teaching. After a few conversations and two coffee dates, I invited him to spend Thanksgiving with me and my family and he accepted! In December, he took me to his office Christmas party. By January we had decided we were going to get married! Let's recap: we met in October, spent Thanksgiving together in November, celebrated Christmas together and decided to get married by January! I shared this to encourage you that you don't have to spend the Holiday season alone and that I can teach you secrets to get the same results. However, one sister responded to this encouragement by saying: "These "secrets" don't work for everyone because everyone has individual situations & circumstances!! Mine are a GREAT example!!" There was no need to ask her to share her unique situation or circumstances because here's the truth in love: it is NEVER your circumstances that determine whether or not you will find love. It is what you do with the circumstances. How else could I go from lonely, low self esteem, and in abusive relationships to meeting & marrying my dream man in 11 months? Thinking that some situation or circumstance is holding you back is a mindset that needs to be changed. And here's...
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