"Where Are All The Available Men?" How To Find A Man Who Is Ready For A Relationship
By: Aesha Adams-Roberts
"Where are all the available men?"
"There are no good men in [insert your city here]!"
I can't tell you how many times I've heard this from frustrated, single women looking for a relationship-ready man. These successful sistas aren't complaining about the men/women ratios in their particular city; they're fed up with meeting the wrong kind of man!
Let me help a sista out! If you approached your "man search" with the same mindset as a job search, you'd have better results. Instead of asking "where are all the available men?" ask "how can I find a man who's serious about a relationship?" It seems like a small tweak, but changing the question from where to how, does one of two things: 1) assumes that there are available men 2) sets you up to search for solutions
Here's how to find a man who is ready for a relationship:
1) Ask your family and friends to introduce you to someone: This can be done in person or in cyberspace! For example, you could search your friends' Facebook profiles for available men and ask your friend to connect you. Or you could do it the old-fashioned way, and go on a blind date. You could also plan a get-together and ask your friends and family to bring at least one single guy.
2) Use online dating. There are millions of people online; Nearly 1/5 of marriages have started from online dating! In addition to the big sites like Match.com, Eharmony.com, and BlackPeopleMeet.com I've seen specialty online dating sites for farmers, professors, preachers and more. Just Google "online dating" + your hobby to find one that suits you. TIP: You're more likely to find your soul mate online if you treat your online dating profile like a job search. Use professional pictures, write a powerful essay and get ready to go on a lot of dates!
3) Hire a matchmaker: If you're too busy for online dating and you still want to meet a professional man who's looking for a relationship, try a matchmaking service. Matchmakers are like job headhunters. They do all the work for you so you can just show up to the date and focus on having a good time meeting people.
Good men are all around you, waiting to meet you. Change your perspective and you will find them!
Question: Have you tried blind dates, online dating or matchmaking? How was your experience? Please share below!